What good does it do to have the biggest Yacht in the harbor if you’re the only on it? I’ve learned over the years that the single most important reason for having anything is to share it with those you love. Heck, you can even share it with those that you don’t love. I enjoy the practice of living giving. Something there is about the whole process of sharing those things that are important to us. It’s something that transcends daily routine and adds zest to our relationships. I don’t quite know what it is but it’s really awesome! One of the first things I think about when I accomplish something, or succeed in business or solve a problem is this: I’m gonna go tell my kids! Oh ya, there’s a couple of friends that I want to share it with too. Does that happen to you too? What is it about living and giving and caring and sharing that lifts us from within? It’s exciting! When you share an important little victory with a significant other, how do you feel when their face lights up with pride? As the saying goes: “She started to sing as she tackled the thing that couldn’t be done and she did it” The beautiful thing is those who care about her will sing along with glee. She shared it. It’s a form of giving.
We are not born givers. We are born takers. Our mothers feed, change diapers, rock to sleep…you get it. Sometimes fathers do that too. Before we ever learned the value of giving all we could do was receive. Little did we know back then…because we couldn’t speak or understand language, that all the while we were giving great joy to our parents, grandparents and siblings. Just watch one of these YouTube videos of a baby smiling and laughing. What do you feel? Go…right now…put in your YouTube search bar: “Baby Laughing”. Within 2-3 minutes of watching any of those heartwarming videos, you’ll be laughing too. Something there is about joy and laughter: it’s contagious. It’s viral. Babies aren’t even aware that they spread so much joy and happiness for others. Of course, it’s not all a bed of roses. Babies poop! They sometimes cry a lot. They learn about their self-image from our reaction to those phenomena too. It was an absolute pleasure to raise five wonderful children… most of the time. Of course their mother did most of the feeding, changing and “goochie goochie gooing”. Still, I got the repeated intense feelings of love for my children because I got to spend lots of time with them. Living Giving is learned. I think there is a sixth sense that we all have. That sense started prior to our ability to put experiences into words. Think back…didn’t you feel loved as a small child. For at least one person, you were precious. Just because we could not speak we were still learning. Much of that learning passes below our level of consciousness as forgotten memories. Those subconscious memories were, however recorded. They were indelibly imprinted in the memory portion of our brain.
So here we are…older, wiser, going along in our online business life as best we can. Sometimes we lack confidence to proceed profitably. We’re always measuring, testing, trying different things hoping that we’ll find our pot of gold. Maybe you’re like me, trying for several years making a pittance only to realize that we needed to learn, apply consistently, and stick to the tasks at hand. Only four percent of all online marketers will sustain an income of over $100 monthly. So…check my math here…that’s 96% failure rate. Not cool. Are you a 96%er? There is a 4% group that you can join. Yep, ‘sposed to be for all the winners. Check em out. Betcha only 4% of those that have stuck around make decent money. Most of their people quit too. Why? We stop because we are conditioned to fail. Ooooo… You say: “wait a minute, Larry, what do you mean that we are conditioned to fail?” Let’s take a look and see, Okay?
Remember…it all started prior to language. Do you remember the look on your mother’s face when she changed your diaper? How ’bout when you did something fun that she did NOT like? What about that time you were a small baby and you started crying about something? Did you ever perceive her frustration. Fathers do it to. They just have more testosterone so their reactions can be more pronounced. Can you recall the first time your father got angry with you? Can you recall how you felt the first time you became aware that your parents were arguing…not happy with each other? We’ve long since buried these recollections. They are still there. Buried deep. As we developed language we learned to give these perceptions and incumbent feelings names, tags, and definitions. We could begin recalling memories during our “terrible twos” or our “fearful fours”. Those are the times we started really playing with feelings. We learned from our parents and caregivers whether they were good and acceptable feelings to express or whether they were bad, wrong, deserving of correction. Smiling = good. Frowning = bad. Wonderment at the stars = good. Fear from the thunder = bad. We were taught by anyone that reacted to our actions and expressed feelings a value system. Some feelings are good and make others happy. Some feelings are bad and can make others worried, angry, judgmental, and sometimes punishing.
As time went on, say from about two to about seven or eight years of age, our brains absorbed the reactions of the world as to “who we are”. It absorbed it due to language both understood via speech and “body language”…the physical and verbal reactions of others to our behavior. This “self-image” was more keenly affected by the sixth sense. The unconscious yet recorded experiences we had as a baby prior to language. I know, you might disagree. OK. When is the last time you stopped doing something because “it just didn’t right”? When is the last time you got really angry and did not know why? Why does a certain look and sound in someone of the opposite sex stir your passion? Why do most men fall in love with women like their mothers? …and visa versa with many women? So, let’s be really authentic here. We don’t know. We guess, but we are not sure. I submit it is because of the forgotten sixth sense. That’s what I found for me with the help of my imagined super heroes. Read some of my past posts and you might find out.
So, here it is…finally the conclusion of the post: As humans we must re-learn the long forgotten behavior that we are to give...receiving is automatic. Life will take care of you. It will “gitchy gitchy goo” you. Yes, life will change your dirty diapers. Society (at least in the US) is structured to keep you alive and healthy. Society, in a word, has “replaced” your mother. It’s your choice now. As you did automatically as a small child, express your smiles, laughter, and wonderment at daily life…live with gratitude. You are alive! You breathe! What is your contribution to your significant others? More than that, what is your contribution to your community and the human family? Just as you shared your smile as a baby, share your gratitude now. Practice living giving. You can only share what you possess. What do you have that you can give today? Who will you serve today? Life will take care of the rest.
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